Sometimes I feel that peoples around me driving me nuts. Doin something that I can not accept. Too much fight. Too much pain. Experts say you can't change another person, but is that really true? Have u ever do this steps?
1. Sit down and relax yourself. Take one deep breath. Ill start thought with the possibility that the person will never, ever change, because in all likelihood, they will not. Is it possible you could change your own behavior and attitude to accommodate them? I desperately want my spouse threw her bad behave to rubish bin. But and then I found I just fooling my self. Once you truly accept that they may never change, you can use this strategy without grasping and desperation.
2. Told them your feelings about the behavior very clear to the person. Give specific examples “Baby when u saying bad words and cursing me, I feel like I am nothing to you, and that hurts my feelings”. Once you are sure the person has heard you, back off and do not go over this again. If you have already been complaining to the person but they still do it over and over again, skip this step.
3. Clearly ask what u want. Then back off and do not belabor this. If you have already been telling the person, calmly and clearly, what you want, then skip this step. They already know.
4. Think about their good behavior. Good memmories . Like u love them a lot. The reason you build your relationship. Yours dream and future. It works to calm you down.
5. Ignore bad behavior. That’s right, ignore it. You have already been very clear about how the behavior makes you feel, and what you want the person to do. You have accepted that they will not change, right? Right?
PS
I FEEL BAD MOOD WHEN WRITE THIS.. So if u expect better TIPS than this, TEXT GOD! !
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